How to Become Empowered Through Healing Your Generational Curses ⋆ Earth and Water

True empowerment is the ability to live your life authentically and in accordance with your values. Instead of remaining stuck in the external programming that we’ve all been subjected to, empowerment is the decision to make your own choices and take responsibility for your own life. It is the ability to stand up for what you believe in, even when it is difficult.

The illusion is that we need external things to happen or fall into place in order to become empowered. This is a common belief trap that we are not enough on our own. But the truth is (trigger warning), we have the power to create our own reality. We have the power to choose our own path despite what our culture and world has tried to tell us.

We pretty universally believe that power comes from things like money, status, or authority. But the truth is, true power comes from within.

One of the most powerful things we can do is to become aware of our choices. To choose our thoughts, our feelings, and our actions when we respond to the world around us.

This awareness leads us to make purposeful decisions that begin to create the life we want, brick by brick. We can choose to focus on positive thoughts and feelings. We can choose to take actions that are aligned with the values we’ve chosen and we can choose to respond to challenges in a constructive way.

The power of choice is a gift that we can use to create a life that is full of joy, peace, and love.

The most important step in achieving empowerment is to love and accept ourselves, flaws and all. This means self discovery so that we can begin to shed the layers that were given to us and never really fit. To shed this gunk, we have to figure out which layers are truly us and which ones belonged to someone else. Something that can prove to be very difficult, especially in the beginning.

Self-love is not about being the perfect version of yourself. We are human and will always be, so give yourself a little grace. It is about accepting ourselves for who we are, and knowing that we are worthy of love and happiness, despite any “imperfections”. Self-love is about being kind and compassionate towards ourselves, even when we make mistakes.

When we love and accept ourselves, we naturally become empowered which allows us the courage we need to live our lives to the fullest, pursuing our dreams and achieving our goals. Which inevitably leads to a life that we love.

First though, you have to do the work of getting to know yourself.

Empowerment is a journey of self-discovery and self-love. It is embracing our unique gifts, learning to accept ourselves, others and to forgive everyone involved in where we’ve landed (ourselves included).

Be patient and kind with yourself. There will be ups and downs along the way. But if you stay committed to your journey, you will eventually reach your destination.

You are worthy of empowerment and a life that you love.

Beginning –

The family unit and societal conditioning that we’ve all been exposed to, whether helpful or unhelpful. Shedding the unhelpful layers to leave only the thoughts, habits, beliefs, etc that serve us well.

Social conditioning generally leaves us in 1 of 2 boxes:

The person who falls in line, never questions and may “wake up” later in life realizing they never lived and don’t know who they are.
The rebel non conformist who gets looked at in a negative light.

The view points on these 2 types are shifting to a more understanding model. We now know that the “troublemaker kid” probably isn’t trying to give everyone a hard time as much as they’re having a hard time and need some care, love and understanding.

We’re all children parading around as adults with whatever belief systems were given to us as children. When you can see the separation between what was given to you versus what actually resonates with you, growth occurs and you can begin to “parent” yourself. Most often this means giving yourself that which you needed as a child but didn’t receive. This allows you to begin forming yourself into the happiest, highest version of yourself.

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Dissecting what’s considered “trauma”. People understandably get a little touchy on this subject but the energetic point of view is that trauma is anything that goes against your original energy signature and causes harm to that field. If you walk away from the incident, no matter how minor, with a distorted energy field that takes you away from your true self, we’re considering it trauma.

Obviously, varying degrees of trauma are possible. What is traumatic for one may not be for another and the time and work it takes to restore that energy field distortion depends on the level of impact it had on the particular person in question.

The first step in healing any of it is awareness.

Emotions become stuck in our body because when the situations that cause them occur, we don’t know how to experience that, process it and allow it to be released. Therefore it becomes stored for later. Emotions like anger or resentment are easier to feel than the pain behind them which leads us to hide behind them.

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Nothing happened “to you”, it’s just what happened. Again, it’s normal to feel the more aggressive emotions and you HAVE to feel them in order to get to the other side of them and release them. It’s up to us to find healthy ways to release them so that we’re not hurting others along the way because that just perpetuates the cycles of pain.

You have to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable since problems occur when we suppress our emotions instead of allowing them to safely and productively play out.

Some people can sit with something once, allow it to be felt and released and be done. Most of us have to hack at it little by little for a while because these things can get DEEPLY imbedded into who we are and touch every facet of our lives. Unraveling it layer by layer is something Monique equated to a spider web. A beautiful and fitting analogy for what we’re discussing.

You have to systemize what works for you so that you know exactly what to do when you’re met with these emotionally charged situations and circumstances or else you’re always going to feel as though you’re drowning. These systems are your tools and can be as structured or as laid back as you like and as what works for you.

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You want to avoid “toxic self care”. An example of this would be crawling into bed for a nap that lasts 3 days. You have to be self aware of these traps so that you can pull yourself out of them.

Avoiding all stuck-ness because energy needs to MOVE. There’s a lot of ways you can get the energy moving, from food to taking a walk.

Shadow work helps with empowerment a lot. We all have yin and yang energy. “Good” and “bad” are a human construct which can make us uncomfortable with the aspects of ourselves that may be labeled as “bad”. Coming to terms with these aspects can help us find empowerment through acceptance and love for even those parts of ourselves that others would have opinions about.

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Empowerment is about finding what resonates with YOU despite the cultural taboos. What’s best for you and what works best for you and standing by that despite other’s opinions.

Authenticity is ever evolving. You really only have yourself. Stay hyper aware. That’s the work. We’ll get there.

About Our Guest

Hi, my name is Monique, and I am an Intuitive Empowerment Coach! I help people overcome limiting beliefs using my Self Mastery Method which empowers them to build confidence, trust themselves, develop a greater mind-body connection, and cultivate their dream life! My passion is helping people make deep connections from within, unraveling the patterns that have been holding them back, and creating the space for them to step into their power! I wholeheartedly believe that each one of us possesses the innate capability to embrace our unique authenticity, all it takes is that first step to look within!