We’re creatures of habit. We like our illusion of safety in familiarity and due to this, a lot of us find it hard to cope with change.
Familiarity, though, as well as safety are all an illusion. Even when it seems like nothing ever changes from day to day, if you look back to a year ago, 5 years ago, chances are everything is different. The only constant in this world is change.
Everything is always changing. People, situations, jobs all change just like the seasons of the earth, the government and systems put in place for us. We can’t stop the changes. We can only hope to be aware of this fact of life and put forth the effort to steer change in a positive direction.
Stopping the change, being angry or resistant to the change isn’t practical. It’s a complete waste of time and energy. We can, however, choose how to handle the change and in many cases, choose the change we face completely.
Change is a Good Thing
Trust me, you want change. Without it, we would never grow as people or a society. Energy likes to move and flow. As is the natural way of all life, but energy that doesn’t move and flow stagnates and causes disruption in the harmony of things.
Without change (movement and flow) energy blocks occur. An example is trauma causing emotions to stagnate in our chakras, leaving us with a variety of unwanted manifestations.
Without change the seasons wouldn’t cycle through, positive cultural changes (equality, for example) wouldn’t come about. Individuals wouldn’t learn to do better, be better for both themselves and the world.
WE wouldn’t learn to be better and do better to create a better life for ourselves and those around us.
Attachment Causes Suffering
Releasing attachment to worldly things can help us to face changes in a more positive less disruptive manner. If we’re not attached to worldly things, it doesn’t hurt as much when they are take from us. And know that they will always be taken from us.
Not to sound morbid and dark, but the truth of the world that we live in is that everything must end. The only guarantee in this life is death. It is merely a simple fact and to hide from it is to do ourselves a great disservice.
For when we face it, and everyone of us will face it at multiple times in life, we will be more prepared. To ignore it means to be unprepared and face the potential of a catastrophic situation.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t love and enjoy worldly things and people. You should absolutely enjoy the things that make life grand. We should always remember though that the nature of life is fleeting.
Enjoy things while they’re here. Don’t take anything or anyone for granted. Take in all you can while it is here. And when it is gone, remember the smiles and be thankful for the experience.
It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, right?
When we release attachment and accept the fact that nothing lasts forever, we can move more quickly and smoothly through coping when we are faced with change.
Cultivating Positive Coping Mechanisms
When we are faced with change we have two choices in front of us:
- Be angry and resistant
- Accept it and make the best of it
There are ABSOLUTELY things worth fighting for in this world. It’s up to us to use discernment though when faced with change to decide whether this is something worth our anger and resistance.
- Change in the form of rights being taken away: worth time, energy, resistance.
- Change in the form of different routines, procedures, new tech, broken things, a new job, changed plans, etc: not worth it > go directly to acceptance and making the best of the situation
Following through with this after you choose your direction means practicing a few learnable traits such as patience, flexibility, creating space, heart-brain coherence and trust in both yourself and the universe.
These aspects are discussed individually in the video above.
Create space for adjustment
Practice creating space before reacting to anything and everything. This is easiest-ly started with practicing while nothing of shock is going on, in every day occurrences and interactions.
Create space, just a few seconds is all that’s needed, to pause before reacting. Pause before answering. Pause before moving on to the next task at hand. The more you learn to pause before things, the more smoothly you can transition from one thing to the next. With intention and purpose instead of default reaction.
When we can bypass our knee jerk reaction, we can instead choose another, more positive reaction and path of moving forward. We always want to be on the path of leaning to control our emotions and responses to life.
To be in control of ourselves, is to be in control of our life and future.
Ask For Support/ Help When You Need It
You are never alone, although it may feel like it at times (or often times). There is ALWAYS someone going through the same thing. Always someone who has been there. People who understand and people who want to help.
No one can read minds though. You have to look for the help and support. You have to reach out and ask for it. Often, this can be the hardest part but once you find someone , you’ll be glad you did.
Humans are social creatures. We need that sense of community. We need to feel as though we belong and lean on one another to move forward in a positive direction. Life was always meant to be a team sport.
Join Facebook groups, search your problem on social media and google. Fall down the rabbit hole looking for support, answers and help. Talk to people and ask questions. Don’t give up.
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S.S.Blake; Spiritual Life Coach, Yoga + Meditation Teacher and Founder of Earth and Water
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